I need to think of a name for myself for my psychological/sociological musings. It’s not quite Hazel, but somewhat similar…
I was raised as a Catholic. Not a particularly strong one, mind you, but my mom took us to church every week, and we said a blessing at dinner each day (and, of course, I can still recite the Hail Mary, Our Father, and that blessing for meals). We stopped going to mass when I was about 9 under the guise of my mom’s Carpal Tunnel Syndrome, though I’ve recently learned that she just didn’t want to go anymore (plus, she really did have Carpal Tunnel). She doesn’t much like being told how to live her life–especially by an organization of some sort. I believe she just wanted us to grow up with morals of some sort–something for which I’m incredibly grateful, as I have come to personally believe in living morally… despite certain songs and shows I enjoy.
Fast forward a few years, and my friend (hereafter L… and unfortunately, not the guy in Death Note) invites me to start coming to her youth group. Her church was more or less non-denominational, and it was there that I was introduced to the protestant type of church which, suffice to say, is far more interesting and energetic than what I was used to from my childhood. I went there for, perhaps, two years or so, and even went on a couple of their trips. During that time, I grew incredibly close to another friend of L’s (let’s call this new one N). Through a series of some oddly coincidental circumstances–honestly, it was like fate–N and I started looking into Wicca and decided to follow that religion instead.
Ironically, this is also the time I was introduced to shooting and began becoming interested in politics. Naturally, I felt like a bit of an outcast in both the gun-loving and the pagan sides of American cultures. Since that time, I’ve gotten to know libertarians better and that stereotype has been mostly pushed from my mind, though I have yet to meet a Wiccan who shoots (I have pretty much disengaged myself from that community, though).
This conversion remained a secret between N and myself, frankly because we were afraid of losing our current friends (like L, who was incredibly religious–hence, her taking us to the youth group to begin with. Plus, the Ouija board told us they’d reject us for it). As with all secrets, it eventually came out and our fear was falsified in its entirety. The feeling that whole time, though, was that of being under a constant barrage of attacks from all of Christian society (unhelped by our discovery of internet forums and the fact that we both continued going to the youth group the whole time). Likewise, the youth group constantly felt the need to defend against the general immorality that is (admittedly) ever-present in American culture.
What I gather from all this is an interesting phenomenon in human nature, which I know has already been discovered and surely studied to some extent–I guess I just like figuring these things out for myself. In homeschool, I took a “course” in psychology, for which I read this book. In there, Baumeister breifly mentioned the “us vs. them” mentality (or something along those lines… not sure of the exact wording), though he never really went into too much detail.
That’s what I’m here for. Too much detail seems to be my specialty, actually.
Through my experiences with these various religions (and, of course, the different sects within Christianity in particular), I’ve come to find that they all are afraid of persecution of some sort. The Wiccans fear the Christians, who for the most part don’t seem to care at all about the Wiccans; the Christians seem somewhat worried about perhaps the Atheists and, really, anyone, including other versions of Christianity, and, well… the feeling is mutual. The thing is, they all believe themselves to be in the defensive position in whatever sort of “battle” may actually be taking place in reality as opposed to everyone’s mind.
For the record, I’m doing some mad-crazy generalization in here. When I say, “all” at any point in here, it never means every single individual in that group. Just in case that couldn’t already be gathered from you having actual intelligence.
Yet in any sort of battle or game, even when on the defensive you must make offensive moves against your opponent. You can’t just block; you have to throw a punch. If you refuse, your failure is as sure as taxes. The problem comes when everyone gets a–often imagined–feeling that they are under attack from another group. That’s the kind of occurrence that starts wars.
It should be noted that that’s surely not the only thing that starts wars. Oftentimes, there is, in fact, a definite aggressor who almost exclusively desires power. This was once the Christians–technically, the Roman Empire, but they used Christianity to unite the people, and a whole, huge, millenia-ish-long mess ensued–and is now, perhaps, communism and communists (see: Soviet Union, North Korea, China, North Vietnam, Cuba, etc.). Of course, the radical Muslims are coming into play a great deal and surely may also be one of these forces/people/whatever, but I try to generally shy away from that topic for the time being, as I have yet to study the history of that religion in detail. The Nazis were almost certainly one of these powers, though Germans in general all felt under attack from everyone due to the unfair treaties from WWI, so that’s a rather complicated subject of which I’m not entirely sure of all the details.
But I digress. When you identify yourself with any particular group, you tend to automatically believe that group to be better than any others. Hell, I do it a lot: Tang Soo Do > Tae Kwon Do, old Mercedes’ > any other car, gun-owners are nicer than non-gun-owners, and so on and so forth. Patriotism, sort of by definition, is a form of this. Almost the only thing I don’t do that with is my Psychology major–I occasionally get somewhat ashamed of that one.
Now, having groups with which to identify is an important and necessary part of being human. I’m not saying it’s in any way a bad thing. The fact is, though, that for every group, there’s always going to be an opposing group with a different opinion. Naturally, this causes conflict almost immediately between the two, which was pretty perfectly illustrated here. Side one believes that x is better than y, but they then come upon the people of side two, who are absolutely certain that y outranks x by a landslide. Well, side two just insulted side one by implying that x is worse than a lowly y, and that’s just completely intolerable behavior on side two’s part.
That alone explains a large part of what I’m talking about. Anything not on side one is insulting and thereby threatening side one simply by not being for x. Things get even worse if there was persecution of the side ones in the past. If the conflict grew to such a point that side one insults or injures side two so severely that side two starts thinking that it would be easier and make everyone much safer if there were no more side ones and that anyone who likes x more must be inherently evil (since, after all, it was a large group of x-likers that attacked side two). Thus, side two attempts what is essentially genocide against side one.
Ah, but there is no such thing as complete eradication. Hundreds of years down the road, side one and side two are both back to plenty in number. Side two has long since ceased hostilities against side one, and lives in relative harmony with them. Side one, however, has had stories passed down throughout the generations about how side two once persecuted side one terribly. Thus, side one has a deep anger being held down towards side two, who never really got comeuppance for their actions. Yet the stories of what side two once did to side one instills a fear even all these centuries later that side two might return to their old ways. Thus, side one feels as if they need to defend against any minor insult from side two–and that sometimes includes the simple fact that side two looks down upon x.
Escalation sure is a bitch. Perhaps we’d actually be better off repeating history rather than learning from it…
Since humans have such a long, spread-out history all over the world, though, just about everyone has been persecuted and/or conquered by someone at some point. Christians by Pagans, Pagans later on by Christians, Jews by… everyone, Slavs by… someone, Africans by Europeans, Africans by other Africans, Japanese by Koreans, Koreans and Chinese then by Japanese, parts of Europe by Russia, parts of Europe by Germany, Canaanites by Jews, someone by Mongolians, a bunch of people by Persians, a bunch by Greeks, a bunch by Egyptians, everyone by Romans, and the list just goes on and on for ages. Thus, anyone who identifies with any racial and/or religious group feels the aforementioned hostilities.
That history helps them pick out one particular group of which to fear (and fear, of course, leads to fight or flight, and people seem more likely to fight unless immediately threatened. It’s less dangerous to fight an enemy if they’re far away… generally).
I think I got off-track again somewhere. The thing is, when one identifies with a group and really cares about it, it’s hard to imagine anyone not caring about it. It’s odd to me that so many people just don’t care about gun-rights, just as it may be hard for an abortion activist (pro- or anti-, doesn’t matter) to realize that some people are apathetic to the cause. It’s not necessarily that most people actively think, “if you’re not with me, you’re against me,” but it’s a sort of general emotional reaction to getting deeply involved with anything.
Therefore, you get the very small “us” of those completely on your side, and the large and fierce “them” of not only those actively against you, but everyone else as well. Naturally, this is intimidating, and you’d need to be Spartan to feel any confidence when facing those odds. But since we’re animals and have that pesky survival instinct, we feel the need to fight (or fly, but… well, we’ve gone over that).
I believe I’ve gotten into circular logic-territory at this point, which is usually a sign that it’s going nowhere at the speed of light. There seems to be no real conclusion to be drawn from all this; I suppose it’s more for my own benefit, to just try to understand it all. Hope it’s thought-provoking enough, nonetheless–certainly long enough.